Colorful Friday

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The holidays are upon us. Around these parts, the Christmas decorations in people’s yards seem to have gone up extra early, many even before Thanksgiving. I’m not sure if this is people wanting to fast forward everything to the end of 2020, or people just being in dire need of extra cheer. My guess is that it is a little bit of a mix of both things. Anyway, we’ll be putting our decorations up this weekend, which is on par with our typical schedule every year (creatures of habit, I suppose). Happy Friday, friends!!! My regular readers know that Fridays are devoted to “the stuff” in life. On Friday, I discuss three favorite things, or websites, or books, or beauty products, etc. that have made my life more interesting and fun. Welcome to Favorite Things Friday!! Please check out previous Friday listings for more of my favorites and please add your favorites to my Comments section. Here are my favorites for today:

Nature Made CholestOff – I have given blood three times this year. This is more often than most years, truthfully, because I have been monitoring my coronavirus antibodies, but still, giving blood is a good thing to do for yourself and for others, for a myriad of reasons. While I have been disappointed, after each session with my antibody results (negative so far), more alarmingly, my cholesterol readings were a tad scary, from my first two results, from giving blood. I am always loathe to recommend supplements to anyone. Of course, you should always discuss supplements with your doctor before taking them. That being said, I have been taking this supplement for the last few months, without changing my eating habits too much. I was happy to see that my cholesterol reading was the lowest that it has been this year, after this last session of giving blood. And that was from blood given a few days after our Thanksgiving feast. (butter, sausage stuffing, turkey, gravy – in other words, “Cholestafest!”)

Zuke’s Mini Naturals – It turns out (as per our dog trainer) that we have been way too generous with our giant dog treats for minimum good behavior from our fur friends. We have a lot of lessons to teach our canine trio, and we don’t want them to get fat in the process. Zuke’s treats have 3 calories each and those little crumbs must pack a lot of flavor, because our dogs are willing to do their “whole bag of tricks” for one little morsel. I order my bags of Zuke’s on Amazon.

Marco Polo app – This is a fun app. I didn’t think I would like it, but a teacher friend was raving about it, and I am a curious person. Basically, it is an app that allows you to send out recorded video messages to each other, without having to be available at the same time. I don’t like being on video. I don’t like watching videos. (I’m always looking for the written transcript.) Yet, I still had a lot of fun with this yesterday. I sent my friend a few videos of me, all masked up, in the hair salon. She was patient with my learning curve, and like the excellent teacher who she is, she encouraged my effort and told me that she was proud of me. (I hope that she saw that I was beaming under my mask)

Have a wonderful, comforting, restful, hopeful, brightly lit weekend, my friends!!!!

She Said Yes

Did I ever mention how we got Tripped up, I mean how we got our third dog, our pandemic puppy, Trip? It all started when my close friend from college started sending adorable pictures and videos of her third dog, to our group texting chat, right in the earliest days of the pandemic and quarantine. All three of my friend’s dogs are rescues, and all three are amazingly well-trained canines. My friend has a gift. She is a dog whisperer. In lapping up all of the adorable puppy pics, coming on a daily basis, I temporarily forgot that I don’t have that same innate gift for training dogs. I am a dog lover, but alas, I am not a dog whisperer. My husband adamantly did not want a third dog in our household, but after days and days of me whittling him down, insisting all of the good a puppy would do, for the angst our family was suffering throughout this pandemic crisis, he finally agreed (I love, and so appreciate, his soft spot for me). I think the fact that I had settled on a Boykin spaniel, helped seal the deal. The Boykin is like my husband in dog form – Southern, smart, sporty, with gorgeous dark brown hair and stunning green eyes.

Once I got the green light to proceed, I started calling Boykin spaniel breeders. Now, any of us who adopted pandemic puppies, knows that puppies became a rare commodity during quarantine. If you had found an available puppy (usually before it was even born or even maybe conceived), you had better lay claim immediately. We pandemic puppy adopters (many who did not rescue pups, because all of the shelters were empty at that time, due to all dogs being adopted – one blessing of the pandemic, for sure) found ourselves spending more money on a dog, than we ever have spent on any animal, in our lifetimes. Still, at the time, getting a pandemic puppy seemed like one of the sanest things to do, in an otherwise insane time in history. Go figure.

I located a young man who lived in a rural county in the Carolinas, whose beloved dog, had just had her first litter of Boykin spaniels. The young man was so sweet and kind and earnest, answering all of my questions patiently, with all of that wonderful, wholesome mix of Southern charm and manners. He knew that he would have no problem finding homes for all eight of the puppies, but he seemed particularly impressed that I was from Florida. Having never been to Florida, he was entranced with the idea of one of his puppies, living in the exotic, tropical land of palm trees, white, sandy beaches and Mickey Mouse. All of the other puppies would remain with local hunters and farmers, but this puppy would bring attention to his newly found kennel, in the balmy land of faraway, suburban Florida.

“Well, ma’am, I can tell you are a dog lover, and I really do like the idea of one of my puppies being down there in Florida, so maybe we can arrange something. I’ll save you a puppy with a deposit, and we’ll figure out the logistics, later. Yes, ma’am, I think this is all right and meant to be,” he said, with enthusiasm and positivity.

And without hesitation, I sent him a puppy deposit on Venmo, right that very second.

The puppies grew older and healthy, and my daughter and I face-timed our charming, young breeder to pick out Trip. We got to pick out our fur baby from the group of four of the puppies, still not spoken for (the breeder earnestly stuck with his order of deposits) and we both agreed on Trip immediately. It was then that my gallant, young friend, asked me to call him, one-on-one, to discuss a big favor.

“Ma’am, how would you feel about meeting me in Savannah, Georgia, to pick up your puppy?” he asked.

“That sounds reasonable. I can do the whole drive, in a day. Sure, that’ll be fine,” was my answer, filled with excitement and anticipation of having the day planned and scheduled, to scoop up our new fur family member.

“Okay, great, and ma’am, how would you feel about helping me out with a little surprise for my girl? I would like to ask her to marry me there, and I am hoping to get it on camera, right there in front of that majestic fountain, in that pretty park, which I’ve seen on the internet,” he said, calmly, matter-of-factly and full of faith and trust that I was up to the task, despite having never, ever met me in person.

Now I love love. I was completely honored and overwhelmed with the beauty and magical-ness, and seemingly fated quality of it all. I said, “Yes!” immediately without thought or hesitation, forgetting the fact that my camera skills are about as good as my dog training skills. In other words, full of good intentions, but lacking in skill.

My youngest two children had planned, all along, to drive along with me to get our puppy. (there weren’t a whole lot of other options for things to do, in those early quarantine days) Their response to the proposal plans was not quite as enthusiastic as mine. “What if we mess it up? That’s a lot of stress and anxiety to put on us. Mom, we are really perfect strangers with this guy!” my son lamented.

The reality of it all, started wearing on me, too, but the young man seemed so sure of himself and his plan, that I felt like I couldn’t say no. It felt like we were part of a wonderful, meant-to-be, romantic story or movie. I innately knew that we had to go with the flow of the Universe. Plus, I knew that it would be a wonderful story for all of us, that we would never forget. It would be a glimmer of happiness and hope, in a time of so much fear and uncertainty.

When we arrived in Savannah, and we met our breeder friend and his love, Trip was a ball of adorable, yet completely spastic energy. Having been cooped up for hours, he wanted to run in circles and chase leaves and bugs. He no longer cared to be held and cuddled. Our breeder was clearly nervous, and not in any hurry to rush “popping the question”. I did my best to steer all of us towards the fountain, trying to make eye contact with Trip’s breeder, while my agitated and nervous children had their hands ready on their phones, like they were guns, in holsters, during a Western quick draw. Suddenly, Trip made a mad dash underneath the fence of the glorious fountain, seemingly doomed for some kind of looming danger, like drowning or getting lost in an endless sea of bushes surrounding the fountain. Trip’s impulsivity seemed to stir our breeder friend, into action, as well. He dropped on his knee. The rest of what happened is a blur for me. I was desperately chasing Trip. (something that I’ve gotten quite familiar with over these past several months) After frantically picking up Trip, like a falcon snatching up its prey, I glanced over to see a beautiful, in love, young couple embracing and crying. I heard some clapping from onlookers. And I looked at my children, and their faces looked satisfied and relieved. My children had gotten the critical moment on camera, for posterity. Mission accomplished.

About a week ago, our Boykin breeder texted me (we exchange puppy stories and pictures every once in a while), checking in on Trip. He then asked me for some advice. I held my breath and bit my lip . It wasn’t anything like his previous request, thankfully. It turns out our breeder friend and his fiancée want to make a trip to Florida, once this whole pandemic thing is under control. ‘Where did I think that they should go?’ is all that he wanted to know. I love love. I think that those two lovers will do just fine wherever they end up going . . . both in Florida, and in life.

Indicators

My daughter and I were in the car the other day, and an indicator lit up on my dashboard. My heart lurched. I felt kind of panicky and uneasy. It turned out to be my low fuel indicator. I needed to get gas. I hadn’t seen that indicator in so long, it alarmed me. Just another crazy thing about this pandemic situation, I suppose. My response did make me laugh out loud, so that is a good thing.

We were driving home from giving blood. We were hoping that we each had miraculous coronavirus antibodies, but alas, the test results came back today, and we didn’t. However, I did get smacked upside the head with the reality of my pandemic pork out. I’ve let calories be my units of comfort. I realize that I have needed too much “comforting” this past year. I tried to avert my eyes from the scale, but it lit up like my dashboard indicator. “Wake up and smell the coffee, lady” seems to be the message all of the way around.

I saw this on a sign the other day:

“We are responsible for everything that goes into our mouths and everything that comes out of them.”

I think that sign was tailor made for me. I need to be more cognizant on both accounts. I suppose it is good to enter the holidays, with a good reality check. Watch what goes into my mouth and what comes out of it, keep up my oil changes (in both my car and in my body- by regularly giving blood), and recognize when I am low on fuel and running on fumes, before the brightly lit indicators start happening. These are good things to recognize before the thrust of the holidays is upon us and the warning indicators get lost in the jumble of brightly colored twinkle lights.

Shelling

We were shelling on the beach over the weekend. The shells that had landed on the beach were unbelievably beautiful and varied. It had been a long, long time since there had been such an unbelievable array of colorful and unusual shells for the taking. It turns out that times around the full moon are supposed to be the best times to find truly unique shells on any particular beach. We found large conch shells, and clam shells that were so brightly yellow and orange, you would have assumed they had been painted. There were piles of pearly snail shells which were so neatly arranged that my daughter wondered if someone had collected them and put them there, but it turns out, these piles were all over the beach, like leopard spots. I got excited and inspired enough by the experience, to order a book about the different varieties of shells on Amazon. It felt like a brand new, interesting experience, even though I have been shelling on beaches since I was a little girl. I got excited and reacquainted with the treasure hunt feel of it all, all over again.

Friends, this year has been an incredibly difficult and somewhat disillusioning year. A lot of things that make us energized and excited have gone dormant under layers of worry and concern and fatigue. But those things which arouse and delight us, are still there, underneath it all. Like finding a long lost piece of jewelry or another treasured thing, long considered gone forever, the experiences which make us feel moved and aflame, will happen again. We will surprise ourselves with the remembered feelings of delight and aliveness which these dormant experiences will bring us, when life starts to feel lighter again.

The beautiful shells that appeared on the beach, were always there. Some of them are hundreds, maybe even thousands of years old. It’s just that they got covered up by heavy sand and high tides from storms and winds and tossing seas. But on a calm, cloudless day, the sun shown its light on the glistening shells, and the moon smiled her blessing on the banquet of abundant gifts which she had bequeathed to the beach combers. And as the beach combers picked up their perfectly lovely gifts, to examine them closer and to hold them gently in their hands, near to their peaceful hearts, the shellers remembered how perfectly, naturally loved they were, and how perfectly and naturally loved, they have always, always been.

Monday- Funday

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Hi friends! Don’t be offended. It’s Monday-Funday. I honestly love seeing kids in the neighborhood, and there isn’t snow in these parts where I live, but I couldn’t help but laugh at this meme. I grew up in Pennsylvania where there was plenty of snow. Our bus stop was at the corner lot and we would all gather on the neighbor’s tiny front porch to stay warm until the bus came. Every early morning during the winter, we would all be huddled up on those sweet people’s front porch, until one of us would dare to leave the porch and start a snowball fight. And they never said a peep about it. These neighbors were older. They didn’t have young children. I don’t even know if I knew their names, but here I am writing about their kindness, over forty years later. Kindness counts. Have a great day!

Soul Sunday

Good morning, dear friends and readers. On Sundays, I devote this blog to poetry. I either write a poem, or I share a poem, and I strongly encourage you to share your poems in my Comments section. Poems have a way of broadening thought and deepening emotion, like no other form of writing can do. Today, I share two poems written by other people. The first poem, “Cranky Old Man”, is attributed to an Australian man, named David Griffith. David was living in a nursing home and this poem was found by his nurses, in his things, after he died. It has since been shared widely around the world. Thank you, to my dear friend, who shared it with me this week. The second poem, I found on Twitter. I am at the age when a lot of people who I know, are on their second marriages, and I thought that the poem was sweet and romantic and hopeful, for those relationships, especially. Have a restful, rejuvenating, reinvigorating, and restorative end of your weekend, as we enter into the holiday season. See you, tomorrow, my dear friends and readers.

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Loyalty and Steadfastness

I couldn’t sleep. I am writing this in the wee, wee hours of the night, or perhaps, I am writing this is in the early morning. I’m not sure. I haven’t even looked at the clock. As Thanksgiving is beckoning us, right around the corner, I find myself bathed in gratitude. Our children, the ones who still “live” with us, are all safely tucked into their beds, under our one roof. I know that our eldest son, though grown and far away, is safe and content. We texted each other a few times today. I know that I am loved. I am so fortunate to have cherished family, and friends, and pets, and I have you, my treasured readers. Now, I realize that a lot of my readers are also my known family and friends (whose loyalty I am utterly grateful for – I love you so much. Thank you.), but I also understand that a lot of you, my precious readers, are people who I have never, ever met in my “real” life, yet I treasure you. Know this. I treasure you. I feel so much purpose in writing this blog every single day, and the fact that you actually take precious time out of your days to read my blog, means the world to me. Know this. I treasure that fact. I treasure you.

The seasonal winter holidays are here. In some ways, that is a wonderful thing. In some ways, that it is also a hard thing. With the holidays, comes a lot of nostalgia. Some people love nostalgia. I don’t, really. Nostalgia is something that I can only take in small doses. Some people love to pour over old pictures and videos and memory books. I honestly don’t like to do too much of those activities. My feelings run deep. And Nostalgia is a heady stew of spiced up feelings that proves to be too much for me, when served in heaping bowls. I like spoonfuls of nostalgia, here and there. Spoonfuls or smatterings of nostalgia are enough for me. Otherwise, I mostly try to stay in the moment. I know that the every day moments (the moments, that surprisingly often, end up being the game changer moments in life) will continue to pile up into a big pile of nostalgia in the memory bank of my heart, which I will always be able to spoon off of, whenever needed. Just a smattering, please.

If you are like me, and the holidays are great in some ways, but in other ways, the holidays can be a sensory overload, I promise to be steadfast. I promise to write this blog every single day throughout the holidays, unless I can no longer think, nor write. Even if you don’t like what I write, you can always rely on me. I am a rock in your life. What else is steadfast and loyal in your life? Even if you don’t have steadfast and loyal family, friends and pets, then you definitely have the sun, and the moon, and the stars, and nature, and music, and institutions like clean water and electricity and mail and garbage pick-up, and your place of peace or worship, and your library, and Google and Amazon and Walmart and McDonalds. You have God, and you have the angels. You do. You don’t have to believe it, but you do.

The holidays are steadfast. They come every single year, no matter what kind of year it has been for us, personally or communally. There is something to be said for that – there is something to be said for those people, places and things, that you can always rely on to be there, no matter what. Loyalty and steadfastness are beautiful traits. You have given these honorable gifts to me, my loyal and steadfast readers, and thus I give them back to you, with earnest respect and a brimming, grateful heart. I am here for you. Check in here, every single day of the holiday season, and just breathe. Know that you are loved and know that you are appreciated, because you are, by me. You are not alone. Thank you, always, for your presence and your attention. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

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Acceptable?

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Do you remember when your grandparents said things that were perhaps a little bit socially incorrect, and what they said made you cringe and groan, but you kind of gave them a little bit of a pass because what they said wasn’t meant to be mean or hateful, and what they had said, came more from the fact that they had been raised in a different era (and also, you absolutely adored your cute, now child-like grandparents)?

It hit me yesterday, that I have passed into that age bracket, where if I am not careful, I could be the cause of the cringes and groans. (another aging milestone – yippee) My friend was relaying a story in our friend group text chat, which I won’t relay because it is not my story to tell, but she was saying the difference in reactions, between she (mild discomfort, but generational understanding) and her daughter (pure outrage) to something that a friend of a friend had said, in playful passing, was nothing short of striking.

The story my friend relayed put me in mind of a conversation I had earlier this week with my youngest son. He is home for the Thanksgiving break and he had seen one of their childhood buddies at the gym. This young man is a brilliant guy and is attending one of the most prestigious law schools in our country. My son relayed that his friend had gotten both of his ears pierced. I must have said something like, “Oh brother! Why would he do that?! Isn’t he in law school?”

To which my son, answered, “Mom, stop being so antiquated.”

I replied, “I am antiquated.” And then I pondered about it. I am antiquated. Facts. I have officially reached the beginning of antiquity. My thoughts and my feelings and my perceptions and my impressions about things, perhaps need some cleaning up and modernizing, I suppose. How much of what I say and what I do and what I think, are actually my true beliefs about things, and how much of this is just mind-swirl, indoctrinated stuff from my childhood, which has always been validated by my similarly raised generation, until the younger generations started into adulthood? Do I really want to become one of those cantankerous old ladies who everyone gives wide berth, but excuses my wackiness for my age? If I do want to become one of those outspoken old coots, I want it to be about things that I do feel strongly about, things which I have really contemplated about from every angle, and things that I know from the deepest parts of my heart and my soul to be timeless and true. I don’t want to ever become so antiquated, that I forget that I can be wrong about things. I can be wrong about a lot of things. I never want to become so antiquated that I become afraid of change. I want to be one of those interesting, intriguing antiques, that is so uniquely cool and so genuinely itself, that it is not just tolerated up in the dusty attic, but the antique makes a major comeback, because there has never been anything quite like it, ever made.

Monday Fun-Day

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Happy Monday-Fun-day! It’s just too easy to online shop these days, isn’t it? Yesterday, I managed to break a bright red bottle of nail polish on the floor of our recently remodeled laundry room. It splattered everywhere. It looked like a horrific murder scene. My husband had to stop his grilling (a recently reacquainted past passion of his), in order to help me to clean it all up, in a big hurry. It’s moments like these when you realize that you have married the right person. He was really kind and good-natured about the whole fiasco and we got it cleaned up more easily than I had hoped. Partners in crime, for better or for worse.

Bonus Favorite

Usually I save all of my favorites for Fridays, but last night my husband and I watched a film that deserves a mention today. We watched The Ballad of Buster Scruggs. We didn’t know anything about the film going into it, other than it had decent review scores. It turns out that the movie is several movies in one. It is read like a storybook and each story is a vignette of its own. All of the stories are old westerns, with their characters ranging from outlaws, to singing cowboys, to Comanches, to pioneer people, bravely (and perhaps desperately) heading out west in covered wagons. The stories range from silly, to surprising, to horrific, and most of the stories are honestly, quite dark, and yet, I felt myself being in the state of a young child, saying, “Tell me one more! Just one more!” There are a few big actors who play in the movie like Liam Neeson and James Franco, but all of the other actors who played in the movie, and who were not actors I recognized, were just as fascinating, and obviously quite into their roles. The characters are truly developed in this interesting to watch, and easy to get engrossed in, old-timey movie. Go into The Ballad of Buster Scruggs with an open mind, and prepared to be entertained, in a way you aren’t used to be entertained these days. (This movie is a Coen Brothers movie. If you liked O Brother, Where Art Thou?, you will like this movie.)

“We all love hearing about ourselves, so long as the people in the stories are us, but not us.” – Englishman (The Ballad of Buster Scruggs)