Golden Girls Then & Now

Wow. Times have changed. I can’t decide whether this is good or bad. I do remember back when I was a little girl, there were “rules” about women needing to have short hair before “a certain age” and also what was appropriate to wear “at a certain age”. I am happy that those “rules” have been thrown out the window. And of course, due to medical advances, people are now living longer and healthier lives. The life expectancy for American women has gone up about 4 years since the early 1990s when “Golden Girls” was a hit show.

But at the same time, there is a lot of pressure these days for women to hold on to “eternal youth.” In the past 19 years, cosmetic procedures for women has increased 429 percent. (Cosmetic Surgery National Databank) And the high tech filters on our telephones are made to make us feel like how we really look is not pretty enough . . . at any age.

I’m still pondering all of this in my mind, as I enter into this second half of my life. It’s interesting to observe how society changes, when you live long enough to observe all of the changes. I like these quotes on the subject:

“There is a fountain of youth: it is your mind, your talents, the creativity you bring to your life and the lives of people you love. When you learn to tap this source, you will truly have defeated age.” ~Sophia Loren

“Your 40s are good.  Your 50s are great.  Your 60s are fab.  And 70 is f*@king awesome!”  ~Helen Mirren

“The trouble is, when a number—your age—becomes your identity, you’ve given away your power to choose your future.”  ~Richard J. Leider

“It annoys me when people say, ‘Even if you’re old, you can be young at heart!’ Hiding inside this well-meaning phrase is a deep cultural assumption that old is bad and young is good. What’s wrong with being old at heart, I’d like to know? Wouldn’t you like to be loved by people whose hearts have practiced loving for a long time?”  ~Susan Moon

“I am appalled that the term we use to talk about aging is ‘anti.’ Aging is as natural as a baby’s softness and scent. Aging is human evolution in its pure form.”~ Jamie Lee Curtis

“Aging isn’t about getting old it’s about LIVING… Learning that you can age well, will actually help you to age better… let’s start celebrating and living an engaged life, and stop punishing ourselves for not looking a certain way, and instead holding ourselves accountable for actually taking care of ourselves inside first, knowing the results on the exterior will be a shining side effect.”  ~ Cameron Diaz

Are you passing on love or are you passing on pain? Heal your pain and pass on love.

In the Water Closet Friday

Happy Birthday to my first baby! Its my eldest son’s birthday today. He was born on a Friday – Good Friday, in fact. My son was born on Good Friday of ’96 and my husband was born on Good Friday of ’69. I always like that cool little twist. The gift of my son, certainly adds to why I LOVE Fridays. This is one of our family’s “birthday clumps”, in case you haven’t noticed. Every family has “birthday clumps”, where you actually start to get tired of birthday cake, if that is even possible.

It is also FAVORITE THINGS FRIDAY! New readers, I don’t get heavy and emotionally charged on Fridays. I typically list three things, resources, songs, etc. that I really like and I pass these on to you as a gift. Please gift me and the other readers back in the Comments section with some of your favorites and share the love. Sharing the love is so easy to do on Fridays. It just goes with the Friday vibe.

Today’s Friday Favorites are the best bathroom reads. Bathroom reads are those little resource books, or one-page quote books or books filled with pick-me up stories that are quick reads when you feel a little bored in the water closet and you already read the latest copy of People magazine in ten minutes. (on an aside, you know how they say you should read a fortune from a fortune cookie and add “in bed” to the end of the fortune? I’m going to add “in the water closet” to the end of my recommendations, for fun. Go with me, on this. It’s Friday.) Here are three of my favorite bathroom reads:

Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom by Christine Northrup – This book is for when you start panicking about your health and you can’t get to Dr. Google, just yet. The book’s author is thorough, kind, empathetic and wise. I always feel so reassured and informed any time I look up any of my “concerns” regarding my body, when using this book as a resource. . . . in the water closet.

The Ultimate Dictionary of Dream Language by Briceida Ryan – One time my friend sent our group chat questions about a weird dream that she had the previous night. The dream was about a badger and she had no idea where that came from. (She’s an Aquarius.) Anyway, I was able to go to this dictionary and sure enough, it had an explanation for badger dreams. Whether it was the correct explanation or not, is beside the point. I was able to multi-task and to help a friend out. All the way around – relief. . . . in the water closet.

The Essential Wit of the World’s Funniest People edited by Daniel Bukszpan – This book is just full of hilarious short funny, quotes. Here are just two examples from the School Daze chapter:

“My school was so tough, the school newspaper had an obituary section.” -Norm Crosby

“You how to tell if the teacher is hung over? Movie Day.” – Jay Mohr

I think laughter is great medicine in whichever way you may need it. Often people in bathrooms, need some kind of healing. Laughter is key. . . . in the water closet.

I’ll finish with a funny from Chris Rock:

“There are only three things women need in life: food, water and compliments.”

Happy Friday, my dear friends!!! Have a great weekend!! Hope not too much time is spent . . . in the water closet!