A great tip I learned a while ago is that when you are struggling with a really big decision, a really mammoth decision that just has you all tied up in knots and you don’t know what to do, you should just flip a coin. Really, just flip a coin.
Now if that sounds ridiculous, let me explain. You don’t make the decision based on how the coin lands. You base your decision on what you are secretly hoping the result will be while the coin is still up in the air. That moment will tell you the most about your strongest inner longings about the decision. That very moment of hope gets you out of the analytical, calculating thinking mind and really to the very heart of things for you.
Try it. It works a lot of the time. And if it ends up being a bad decision, you can always just blame the coin. Heads or tails?
So, over the weekend when I was talking on the phone to my second son, who is in college, he told me that he is seriously contemplating changing his major (currently Biochemistry). He completely balked when I told him to “flip a coin.” I think that this very practical, scientifically-minded young man had finally lost all confidence in my advice. When I explained the “rest of the story” to him though, I think I heard him start rustling around his room looking for a coin.