Think Smarter (Twitter) nailed it again. I agree completely with the above statement. I have been called bubbly and vivacious and lively and perky. I am those things. I feel everything really deeply. So, luckily, I think that I get a really nice, deep helping of joy and excitement, when I am feeling those emotions. That being said, I also feel my negative emotions pretty deeply, as well. What I do know, is that all of my feelings, are just that – feelings, and they pass. I have reminded my children, and I have written it here on the blog, many, many times that our true consciousness of being, is just like the vast, blue sky. Our peaceful awareness remains a constant. Clouds come, but they always, always pass on by. And we can help the clouds to pass on by, when we monitor our thoughts, because more often than not, our thoughts create our feelings. And our thoughts are often faulty. I have a friend who often says, “Let’s ‘fact check’ that statement,” when any one us in our friend group, gets a little dramatic with our complaints and our woes. Often, we end up laughing at ourselves and our thoughts, because the feelings attached to these thoughts, can really start a ridiculous thought train, going way, way out to La La Land. I read recently, in order for us to not get too attached to our thoughts, we need to detach from them, and visualize them like other information that constantly comes at us and we easily let pass on by without too much pondering, for instance the billboards which we pass as we are driving on a highway, or individual leaves being carried down a stream, or computer pop-ups that we quickly press the “X” button on, to stop them from distracting us. In the end, I think that being a positive person just means that you trust yourself to be able to handle anything that comes your way, and that you are good at finding the silver linings of any situation.
Are you passing on love, or are you passing on pain? Heal your pain and pass on love.
Can I get an “Amen” from the congregation on this?
I’ve always known that it is part of my job in this lifetime to seek out the silver lining. Often it comes unbidden within moments of an event, whether I am consciously thinking about it or not.
I had a conversation with my therapist about this recently because I was afraid that looking for the good in everything was really just another form of self-delusion. She asked me, “Do you ignore what is happening, or do you deal with it, keeping in mind that everything is transient, and looking for a positive resolution?” I responded that I deal with it, but I keep my eyes on the prize. And then I said, not every situation has a positive outcome, but we have the opportunity to learn something; that’s the prize.
She told me not to worry. That I have a healthy, grounded attitude. If I’m not pretending that everything is fine, if I’m acknowledging and dealing with the problem, it is perfectly acceptable (and somewhat admirable) to look for any nuggets of positivity that we can glean from a given situation.
So carry on without fear, my friend. You’ve got a healthy outlook. Just keep fact-checking and you will be fine!
I love it, Kelly. You struck on the crux of it all. You are not denying reality by being delusional, but you are understanding that even the toughest of circumstances have some precious nuggets of wisdom to teach us about ourselves and about life! 🙂
Kelly,
I love the positivity quotes!
Thank you, Joan! Good to hear from you! <3