Happy Fridakkah

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Happy Hanukkah to my dear Jewish friends and readers! Happy Friday to all my friends and readers no matter what your spiritual leanings are, in this stage of your life! Happy Favorite Things Friday, friends! On Fridays, my regular readers know that I don’t go to any depths. I keep it light and material on Fridays. On Fridays, I list three favorite products, songs, foods, TV shows, etc. and I strongly encourage you to add your favorites to my Comments section. Please check out previous Friday posts, for more favorites. Here are my favorites for today:

“Keep the Butterflies Flying in Formation” – This is my new favorite saying. A dear friend of mine is having serious surgery today on her spine, and a mutual friend of ours, texted that her dad would always say this, when they were going through nerve-wracking experiences. First, please send out prayers for comfort and success for my friend’s surgery, and second, keep this awesome, “easy to visualize” saying in your repertoire. It is one that could probably be helpful a lot, until we come to the end of this damn pandemic. It is a good reminder that we can always be in control of our emotions, if we just take a few of seconds to breathe and to reflect.

The Barbecue! Bible by Steven Raichlen – I mentioned that my husband has gotten back into barbecuing after a rather long hiatus. Decades ago, his sister bought him this recipe book and everything which my husband has ever made from this book, has been mouth wateringly delicious. There are some sauce recipes in this wonderful book that I would literally drink from a glass – they are that good. This would be a great Christmas gift for those people on your list who consider barbequing to be one of their crafts and passions.

T.G.I. Friday’s Potato Skin Chips – There is a little dive gas station by me which serves the best pressed Italian subs I have ever eaten. (Right next to it is Subway and I think to myself, how in the hell does that Subway stay in business?!) Anyway, any time that I decide to gorge on one of those glorious subs, I get these chips on the side. I adore these chips. They aren’t flaky. In fact, they are totally substantial and crunchy and full of flavor. The Potato Skin Chips are kind of like Bugles, in the way that they fly under the radar, but when you remember to buy them, you feel like you treated yourself royally, in a snack-y kind of way. Anything that has “Friday” in its name has got to be good, right?!?

Happy Friday, Friends!!! Have a wonderful weekend!!!!

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Creation

Happy Birthday, to my beautiful blue-eyed baby! I now have three children who are in their twenties. It doesn’t seem possible.

My son whose birthday is today, is still at his university, living in an apartment with three of his best friends. We tried calling him first thing this morning, around 8 o’clock, to be his first call of today, but it went to voicemail. This certainly isn’t unusual for a college student, but in this case, my stomach starts churning wildly. This is my child who has epilepsy and he has suffered three major seizures this year, after being completely seizure free for quite a few years. My son has agreed to text me every morning at 8 a.m. after he has taken his meds, and at 8 p.m. when he has taken his nightly dose. These daily texts gives him some accountability and me, a level of security and reassurance and some peace of mind. There was no text this morning (and he rarely misses these texts, especially after his last major seizure of the year).

My son is a deep, deep sleeper and his epilepsy medicine only adds to that well of tranquility. After several calls and texts, I put a time goal, of when I would start calling his roommates to check on him. In the meantime, my mind goes all around in circles, trying to quell my fears. I bounce from logic (he’s a college student who was up late last night, celebrating his birthday) and prayers, to fear thoughts that make me want to rip my hair out, and then back again to fervent prayers. I made 8:45 a.m. the time that I would embarrass him, by waking up his roommates. I hate to inconvenience his friends (who already have experienced one of his frightening seizures, and drive him all around, because my son can’t drive until these seizures are controlled by medicine again) and I hate to embarrass my son, but I have done it before and I will do it again, if need be. Having a child with epilepsy is quite a delicate balancing act. For their mental health and quality of life, you want to keep things as “normal” as possible, but for your own mental health and quality of life, you have a heightened need to control as many variables, as possible.

Luckily, my son finally picked up his phone at 8:25 this morning, apologetically assuring me that he had taken his meds at 7:50 and had just forgotten to text me. This is, thankfully, how these episodes usually end up . . . with a happy ending. May this always be the case. (hear my prayer)

Last night, my husband and I were talking about the charities we give to, and the things which we volunteer for in our community, currently, in this stage of our lives. We talked about the role we play in the charities relating to epilepsy. Sometimes, I wonder if epilepsy was brought into our lives, for us to help champion finding the cures, to bring attention to this ailment, and to help others to deal with the uncertainty that epilepsy brings to people’s lives. But honestly, none of us in our family, want to make epilepsy the focal point of our lives. Most of all, our son doesn’t want to be defined by it. None of us want to bring any more attention to epilepsy, which is possibly the most painful situation in any of our lives. So, we quietly steer money towards various epilepsy charities, but otherwise, we try to keep epilepsy out of our minds, as much as we can. On a personal level, I try to give compassion to anyone who lives with a chronic ailment or disease. I empathize with these courageous people, more than I ever have before. Is what we do, in regards to epilepsy, enough? I don’t know. But I have to listen to my heart speak. I have to understand my own limits, and to trust in my own purpose, which is firstly, the health and the sanity of me, and my immediate family.

In this crazy, confusing, unfathomable year, there are a lot of us out there who want to save the world. We want the pain to end. We want the uncertainty to go away, for everyone. We want all of the “right” answers to come, and to come quickly to fix everything back up to “normal.” There are a lot of us who are bewildered and scared and we empathetically recognize those same feelings from everyone we encounter. (even with everyone being all masked up). But let’s remember, these problems are too big for any one of us to overcome, on an individual basis. It’s okay to take care of yourself, and just do what you are able to do, on a daily basis. It’s okay to nurture yourself, and your people as best as you can, because that’s how major problems do get fixed. Everyone does the best that they can, with their own individual lives and their own individual purposes. We are droplets of the Ocean, that makes up life. We are trees and branches and leaves and roots of The Tree of Life. We are each cells of The Body. It’s not the job of a skin cell to pump the heart. It is not the job of the tree bark to make chlorophyll. It’s not the job of a water droplet to soak all of the farmlands, the world over. If everyone just does their best, to be their own individual best, The Body is healthy and thrives, The Tree stands tall and strong, and the Oceans of Water remain the source of replenishing saturation of Life all over. We are all doing our best, with what we can, and that is enough. We are enough. We don’t realize this, because we are each, just one teensy unit, in a major process of universal healing and growing and expansion, that is happening all of the time. This year of growing pains, has just brought an acute awareness to this fact. All that we have to do, on an individual basis, is to hang on, nurture ourselves and others in the capacity in which we are able to do, and to trust in this process. Then, we can look forward to the time when we can expand our vision, to greater, calmer heights, to be able to see the true beauty and perfection, of that which we call Creation. Creation has been made, and will always be made by every one of us, into eternity. We are each just tiny sparks of Creation and that is enough, to be a precious spark, lighting the world in our own special individual way.

TidBits

+I watched Red Table Talk for the first time ever yesterday. Red Table Talk features Jada Pinkett Smith and her daughter and her mother, talking to guests about current issues. The episode that I watched was the latest one, featuring Olivia Jade, the daughter of Lori Loughlin, and it focused on her reaction to being the “centerpiece” of the college admissions scandal. The show was excellent. There are no “commercial breaks” so the subject is discussed and explored, in depth. While everyone was respectful to each other around the red table, they were also honest and pointed and real and raw. I highly recommend watching this particular episode. It was a good reminder of how much of our personal perspective is really made up of our own surroundings and upbringing. We may think that we are more open-minded and worldly than we really are, in some cases. This show brings “food for thought” to the Red Table.

+I love this quote from the writer Anne Lamott: “I do not live in my thighs or in my droopy butt. I live in joy and motion and cover-ups. I live in the nourishment of food and the sun and the warmth of the people who love me.”

+Have you heard about the silver monoliths mysteriously showing up in places all over the world, and then disappearing as quickly as they are discovered? In our household, we have received 8 million political calls this year, with car warranty calls coming in at a close second. I think that this meme might actually be accurate and real.

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Mountain Mama

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RIP – Chuck Yeager. There are a lot of pilots in my family and Chuck was always a great hero to all of them.

Chuck was raised in West Virginia and he took great pride from being from West Virginia, his entire life. I have travelled through West Virginia many, many times in my life. I was raised in western Pennsylvania. Many people from my high school’s graduating class attended West Virginia University. West Virginia gets a bad rap. It is wildly beautiful, mountainous, and free. You feel an awesome respect for what a tiny, fragile speck of nature, you really are, when you drive through the windy, treacherous, mountain roads of West Virginia, with the breath-taking spectacular views, everywhere you look. There is a reason why “Take Me Home, Country Roads” is one of John Denver’s most loved songs. It was written and sung with such heartfelt devotion:

“Almost heaven, West Virginia
Blue Ridge Mountains, Shenandoah River
Life is old there, older than the trees
Younger than the mountains, growin’ like a breeze”

People like to make fun of West Virginians for being “backwards” and “under-developed.” But I scoff at that, just as they do. The people who I know, whose roots are West Virginian, are strong, faithful, brave, salt of the earth, prideful, authentic and courageous – very much like Chuck Yeager. They don’t give one hoot what the rest of us think about West Virginia, or its people. Like Chuck, they fly under the radar, beyond the speed of sound, because they know that they live in a multi-faceted, untouched, gorgeous jewel- a hidden gem tucked in the corner of our country’s jewel box. And they don’t feel the need to prove that fact to anybody.

The sun doesn't always shine in West Virginia, but the people do. - Richard Ojeda

Monday Fun-Day

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I hope everyone had a nice weekend. I was reflecting on one of those “coming into my age” moments. Last week, I was having a Zoom meeting with my mentee, who is in the 4th grade. She made a reference comparing me to her grandparents.

“Oh,” I said, trying to hide the horror and shock I was feeling, in my voice. “So, you think that I’m about the age of your grandparents?” I looked off to the side, trying to look casual and only mildly interested.

“Oh, no, no,” she said, not so convincingly.

But then I thought about it more. Her mother is in her twenties. I have a son who is 24 years old. If her grandmother also had her mother in her young twenties, there is even a chance that her grandparents are younger than I am. Things That Make You Go, Hmmmmm.

Soul Sunday

Good morning, friends and readers. It is Christmas decorating day, here at my household, so I wrote a poem about it. My regular readers know that Sunday is devoted to poetry here at Adulting- Second Half. I consider Sunday to be a “poetry workshop space”, like Santa’s workshop, but we work with words here. Be like a poetry elf, and add your own additions to my Comments section, if you please. Today’s poem that I wrote is more “tongue in cheek” that my usual offerings. It’s just my mood today.

The Day Has Come

Why does decorating for Christmas change every year?

Sometimes it is something that I do, which I love and adore,

Sometimes it is nothing but a big, fat, ugly chore,

Sometimes I question if that ratty angel is starting to look like a whore,

Sometimes I only decorate, so to not seem like a grinch or a bore,

Sometimes the nostalgia rips me apart, right at my very core,

Sometimes I close a box and remind myself that “less is more”,

Sometimes the lights don’t work again, and we have to go to the store,

Sometimes I get competitive, as if our decorations get assigned a score,

Sometimes decorating gets precarious, and I have to yell “Fore!”

When it seems like the tree could fall over, and make a mess on the floor.

But in the end, when complete, the decorations make me revel in AMORE,

For, the feeling of hope and wonder is something that always stays the same.

Beautiful Josie

“Beautiful things don’t ask for attention.” – Sean Penn, quote from The Secret Life of Walter Mitty

A friend of mine recently asked me why I never write about Josie, our collie. Do you still have her? Yes, of course, she still lives with us. Josie is a gem. I never write about Josie, because she is perfect. We never write about the perfect things in our lives, do we? The perfect things, we totally and completely, take for granted.

Josie is stunningly beautiful. Her coloring is succinctly divine. Sometimes people gasp when they see her. She’s that pretty. Recently, we were walking the three pups and two sisters passed us. (I know that they were sisters because they had the exact same face, just different hair.) The seemingly more outgoing sister exclaimed, “Oh my God! That collie is GORGEOUS!!”

The less outgoing, and probably more people-pleasing sister quickly blurted in, “They’re all beautiful. All of the puppies are beautiful!” She said this frantically, as if Ralph and Trip could understand the words, and had their feelings hurt.

Josie prances as she walks, and her tail swishes back and forth, with its perfect little white tip, so engagingly and tantalizingly perfect. Not to be weird, but her tail swishing is kind of alluring and sexy, in a way. If she weren’t spayed, she would drive male dogs mad with desire. Josie crosses her front paws when she lays down, ladylike and coy. Her white mane looks like a ravishing fur stole. Josie is Audrey Hepburn in dog form.

We got Josie when she was eight months old. She was raised by a young man with Down Syndrome. I suppose that must have had a huge influence on her beautiful, kind, gentle and calm nature. We never had to train Josie. She never messed in the house. She walks on a lead like a dream. Josie, always sweetly, lets strange children come up to kiss her on her long, elegant collie nose, without a flinch. She guards Ralphie ferociously, as he swims in the pool and she licks Trip clean of the spray from Ralphie’s water shakes. Josie’s maternal instinct runs deep in her bones and it shows. She doesn’t like squirrels and she probably barks too much at them, but that’s okay. I don’t like squirrels either. Our dog trainer said that there is no doubt that Josie is the lead dog in our house. She is queen bee in a stealth way. She only raises her voice when she (barks) at squirrels. Yet, supposedly, she rules the roost. Trip and Ralphie, obviously revere her and adore her in equal measure. (much like the rest of us)

We named Josie after a beloved, bonding family trip to Yosemite National Park. Yosemite turned into an easier to say, “Josie”. I honestly was pretty hesitant to give Josie my full heart. Her predecessor was Lacey, the first collie who stole my heart and who will own a piece of my devoted heart forever. Lacey is/was a legend in our family lore. Still, Josie has wormed her way into my vein of utter devotion. And she never tried to force her way in. Josie just wakes up every morning, ever loving, ever joyful, ever elegant, and yet ever uninhibited. And I thank God every day for her absolute divine presence. I don’t write about Josie, because I don’t want to jinx anything. Josie is almost too good to be true. Josie is perfect.

Colorful Friday

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The holidays are upon us. Around these parts, the Christmas decorations in people’s yards seem to have gone up extra early, many even before Thanksgiving. I’m not sure if this is people wanting to fast forward everything to the end of 2020, or people just being in dire need of extra cheer. My guess is that it is a little bit of a mix of both things. Anyway, we’ll be putting our decorations up this weekend, which is on par with our typical schedule every year (creatures of habit, I suppose). Happy Friday, friends!!! My regular readers know that Fridays are devoted to “the stuff” in life. On Friday, I discuss three favorite things, or websites, or books, or beauty products, etc. that have made my life more interesting and fun. Welcome to Favorite Things Friday!! Please check out previous Friday listings for more of my favorites and please add your favorites to my Comments section. Here are my favorites for today:

Nature Made CholestOff – I have given blood three times this year. This is more often than most years, truthfully, because I have been monitoring my coronavirus antibodies, but still, giving blood is a good thing to do for yourself and for others, for a myriad of reasons. While I have been disappointed, after each session with my antibody results (negative so far), more alarmingly, my cholesterol readings were a tad scary, from my first two results, from giving blood. I am always loathe to recommend supplements to anyone. Of course, you should always discuss supplements with your doctor before taking them. That being said, I have been taking this supplement for the last few months, without changing my eating habits too much. I was happy to see that my cholesterol reading was the lowest that it has been this year, after this last session of giving blood. And that was from blood given a few days after our Thanksgiving feast. (butter, sausage stuffing, turkey, gravy – in other words, “Cholestafest!”)

Zuke’s Mini Naturals – It turns out (as per our dog trainer) that we have been way too generous with our giant dog treats for minimum good behavior from our fur friends. We have a lot of lessons to teach our canine trio, and we don’t want them to get fat in the process. Zuke’s treats have 3 calories each and those little crumbs must pack a lot of flavor, because our dogs are willing to do their “whole bag of tricks” for one little morsel. I order my bags of Zuke’s on Amazon.

Marco Polo app – This is a fun app. I didn’t think I would like it, but a teacher friend was raving about it, and I am a curious person. Basically, it is an app that allows you to send out recorded video messages to each other, without having to be available at the same time. I don’t like being on video. I don’t like watching videos. (I’m always looking for the written transcript.) Yet, I still had a lot of fun with this yesterday. I sent my friend a few videos of me, all masked up, in the hair salon. She was patient with my learning curve, and like the excellent teacher who she is, she encouraged my effort and told me that she was proud of me. (I hope that she saw that I was beaming under my mask)

Have a wonderful, comforting, restful, hopeful, brightly lit weekend, my friends!!!!

She Said Yes

Did I ever mention how we got Tripped up, I mean how we got our third dog, our pandemic puppy, Trip? It all started when my close friend from college started sending adorable pictures and videos of her third dog, to our group texting chat, right in the earliest days of the pandemic and quarantine. All three of my friend’s dogs are rescues, and all three are amazingly well-trained canines. My friend has a gift. She is a dog whisperer. In lapping up all of the adorable puppy pics, coming on a daily basis, I temporarily forgot that I don’t have that same innate gift for training dogs. I am a dog lover, but alas, I am not a dog whisperer. My husband adamantly did not want a third dog in our household, but after days and days of me whittling him down, insisting all of the good a puppy would do, for the angst our family was suffering throughout this pandemic crisis, he finally agreed (I love, and so appreciate, his soft spot for me). I think the fact that I had settled on a Boykin spaniel, helped seal the deal. The Boykin is like my husband in dog form – Southern, smart, sporty, with gorgeous dark brown hair and stunning green eyes.

Once I got the green light to proceed, I started calling Boykin spaniel breeders. Now, any of us who adopted pandemic puppies, knows that puppies became a rare commodity during quarantine. If you had found an available puppy (usually before it was even born or even maybe conceived), you had better lay claim immediately. We pandemic puppy adopters (many who did not rescue pups, because all of the shelters were empty at that time, due to all dogs being adopted – one blessing of the pandemic, for sure) found ourselves spending more money on a dog, than we ever have spent on any animal, in our lifetimes. Still, at the time, getting a pandemic puppy seemed like one of the sanest things to do, in an otherwise insane time in history. Go figure.

I located a young man who lived in a rural county in the Carolinas, whose beloved dog, had just had her first litter of Boykin spaniels. The young man was so sweet and kind and earnest, answering all of my questions patiently, with all of that wonderful, wholesome mix of Southern charm and manners. He knew that he would have no problem finding homes for all eight of the puppies, but he seemed particularly impressed that I was from Florida. Having never been to Florida, he was entranced with the idea of one of his puppies, living in the exotic, tropical land of palm trees, white, sandy beaches and Mickey Mouse. All of the other puppies would remain with local hunters and farmers, but this puppy would bring attention to his newly found kennel, in the balmy land of faraway, suburban Florida.

“Well, ma’am, I can tell you are a dog lover, and I really do like the idea of one of my puppies being down there in Florida, so maybe we can arrange something. I’ll save you a puppy with a deposit, and we’ll figure out the logistics, later. Yes, ma’am, I think this is all right and meant to be,” he said, with enthusiasm and positivity.

And without hesitation, I sent him a puppy deposit on Venmo, right that very second.

The puppies grew older and healthy, and my daughter and I face-timed our charming, young breeder to pick out Trip. We got to pick out our fur baby from the group of four of the puppies, still not spoken for (the breeder earnestly stuck with his order of deposits) and we both agreed on Trip immediately. It was then that my gallant, young friend, asked me to call him, one-on-one, to discuss a big favor.

“Ma’am, how would you feel about meeting me in Savannah, Georgia, to pick up your puppy?” he asked.

“That sounds reasonable. I can do the whole drive, in a day. Sure, that’ll be fine,” was my answer, filled with excitement and anticipation of having the day planned and scheduled, to scoop up our new fur family member.

“Okay, great, and ma’am, how would you feel about helping me out with a little surprise for my girl? I would like to ask her to marry me there, and I am hoping to get it on camera, right there in front of that majestic fountain, in that pretty park, which I’ve seen on the internet,” he said, calmly, matter-of-factly and full of faith and trust that I was up to the task, despite having never, ever met me in person.

Now I love love. I was completely honored and overwhelmed with the beauty and magical-ness, and seemingly fated quality of it all. I said, “Yes!” immediately without thought or hesitation, forgetting the fact that my camera skills are about as good as my dog training skills. In other words, full of good intentions, but lacking in skill.

My youngest two children had planned, all along, to drive along with me to get our puppy. (there weren’t a whole lot of other options for things to do, in those early quarantine days) Their response to the proposal plans was not quite as enthusiastic as mine. “What if we mess it up? That’s a lot of stress and anxiety to put on us. Mom, we are really perfect strangers with this guy!” my son lamented.

The reality of it all, started wearing on me, too, but the young man seemed so sure of himself and his plan, that I felt like I couldn’t say no. It felt like we were part of a wonderful, meant-to-be, romantic story or movie. I innately knew that we had to go with the flow of the Universe. Plus, I knew that it would be a wonderful story for all of us, that we would never forget. It would be a glimmer of happiness and hope, in a time of so much fear and uncertainty.

When we arrived in Savannah, and we met our breeder friend and his love, Trip was a ball of adorable, yet completely spastic energy. Having been cooped up for hours, he wanted to run in circles and chase leaves and bugs. He no longer cared to be held and cuddled. Our breeder was clearly nervous, and not in any hurry to rush “popping the question”. I did my best to steer all of us towards the fountain, trying to make eye contact with Trip’s breeder, while my agitated and nervous children had their hands ready on their phones, like they were guns, in holsters, during a Western quick draw. Suddenly, Trip made a mad dash underneath the fence of the glorious fountain, seemingly doomed for some kind of looming danger, like drowning or getting lost in an endless sea of bushes surrounding the fountain. Trip’s impulsivity seemed to stir our breeder friend, into action, as well. He dropped on his knee. The rest of what happened is a blur for me. I was desperately chasing Trip. (something that I’ve gotten quite familiar with over these past several months) After frantically picking up Trip, like a falcon snatching up its prey, I glanced over to see a beautiful, in love, young couple embracing and crying. I heard some clapping from onlookers. And I looked at my children, and their faces looked satisfied and relieved. My children had gotten the critical moment on camera, for posterity. Mission accomplished.

About a week ago, our Boykin breeder texted me (we exchange puppy stories and pictures every once in a while), checking in on Trip. He then asked me for some advice. I held my breath and bit my lip . It wasn’t anything like his previous request, thankfully. It turns out our breeder friend and his fiancée want to make a trip to Florida, once this whole pandemic thing is under control. ‘Where did I think that they should go?’ is all that he wanted to know. I love love. I think that those two lovers will do just fine wherever they end up going . . . both in Florida, and in life.

Indicators

My daughter and I were in the car the other day, and an indicator lit up on my dashboard. My heart lurched. I felt kind of panicky and uneasy. It turned out to be my low fuel indicator. I needed to get gas. I hadn’t seen that indicator in so long, it alarmed me. Just another crazy thing about this pandemic situation, I suppose. My response did make me laugh out loud, so that is a good thing.

We were driving home from giving blood. We were hoping that we each had miraculous coronavirus antibodies, but alas, the test results came back today, and we didn’t. However, I did get smacked upside the head with the reality of my pandemic pork out. I’ve let calories be my units of comfort. I realize that I have needed too much “comforting” this past year. I tried to avert my eyes from the scale, but it lit up like my dashboard indicator. “Wake up and smell the coffee, lady” seems to be the message all of the way around.

I saw this on a sign the other day:

“We are responsible for everything that goes into our mouths and everything that comes out of them.”

I think that sign was tailor made for me. I need to be more cognizant on both accounts. I suppose it is good to enter the holidays, with a good reality check. Watch what goes into my mouth and what comes out of it, keep up my oil changes (in both my car and in my body- by regularly giving blood), and recognize when I am low on fuel and running on fumes, before the brightly lit indicators start happening. These are good things to recognize before the thrust of the holidays is upon us and the warning indicators get lost in the jumble of brightly colored twinkle lights.